Two weeks ago I started this series looking at how I became a stay-at-home mom and took a closer look at some of the things that make this the hardest job ever.
So the next question I thought about was, “How do I survive day after day?” Honestly, in the beginning this was really really hard. Now, it’s just regular hard. And some days it really is just getting up and putting one foot in front of the other, like any hard thing in life. But I don’t count down the hours as much as I used to. And sometimes I even enjoy myself.
I am a list person who likes to physically do tasks. It makes me feel like I’ve accomplished something. Being a mom is not really like that. Sometimes I can get some tasks done, but more often I feel like I am going in circles doing the same things over and over with nothing really getting done and nothing to show for all my “work” at the end of the day.
I had to go through a major mental shift when I became a stay-at-home mom, and that didn’t happen overnight. It’s still happening, in fact. I had to learn what would work for me and my kids in this new role. I can guarantee you that our everyday family life will look different than yours because I am not you.
But I also know that some of what has helped me is universal, and may be able to help you too. So here is a list of 5 things you can do to help with the transition to motherhood or becoming a stay-at-home mom: Read more
It’s been a little over 3 years since my husband and I decided I would leave the workforce and become a stay-at-home mom. We were pregnant with our first when we made that decision. I cannot say the road has been easy. There are many days I want to quit, but it has been worth it.
I want to challenge and encourage any moms out there who want to be home, who are home and struggle, or even those that work outside the home. Being a mom is an all-encompassing job whether you are home full time or not, so I know that even if you work outside the home there will be something you can relate to.
Over the next few weeks I am going to take a look at three aspects of Becoming a Stay-at-Home Mom:
1. Hardest Job Ever!
2. How I Survive Without Going Crazy
3. How We Can Afford to Live on One Income.
I wish I could say that I have all the answers for you, but I don’t. I’ve only been at this for three years. Lots of moms have tons more experience than I do, but I can share my experience, and hopefully you will find something that you can relate to, especially if you are in the early years of your kids lives as well.
Hardest Job Ever
That pretty much sums it up. I’ve worked many types of jobs: customer service, manual labor, printing, project management, etc. But this is, by far, the toughest job I’ve ever had. Granted, it is also the most rewarding, but toughest nonetheless. Some days I am ready to throw in the towel. While my daughter throws a tantrum and my son bangs continually on the closet door I question if I should do something about all this or just walk back in the other room and put my head under the pillow. Did I mention it’s not even 6:30AM yet? Yeah, it’s gonna be one of those days. Read more
Over the last month I have been exploring three aspects of Becoming a Stay-at-Home Mom:
I started by talking about how it is the hardest job ever. Then I shared some tips for how I survive day-to-day life without going crazy. Today I am going to share how we can afford for me to be home.
How Our Family Can Afford to Live on One Income
We really can’t. Honestly, at the end of the day, we spend more than we are bringing in most months. But somehow it all works out. I give God all the credit for that because in 3 years of me being home we still have our long-term savings intact. I’m not going to give out our exact financials because I don’t think it’s important, but I will say that you can make a one-income family work on a lot less than you think. You can make it work for under 35K.
Granted, you won’t live in the biggest, fanciest house, or take the most expensive vacations, or eat out all the time, but if you are serious about wanting live on one income, there are ways to do it. Read more
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Easter is fast approaching, and if you’re anything like me, then you don’t feel prepared mentally. But there are things you and your children can do to prepare for Easter.
I have been doing devotionals with my kids everyday using the JellyTelly 5 Minute Family Devotionals for Easter. If you don’t know what JellyTelly is you can check out my post all about it here. Those have been wonderful. Every morning I read a short passage of scripture, read the prompt and they watch a short video. Then we briefly talk about what they learned and we pray. My kids are young, 3 and 1, so short is a must. But I feel like it has helped me too.
Listen to Podcasts
Sometimes you may not have time to sit and read for great lengths of time, but listening can be done while on the go, or while doing tasks. I love listening to podcasts as often as I can. Recently FamilyLife had a series on celebrating Easter with your family which was really spot-on and gave many good things to think about in regards to Easter traditions. I highly recommend that you check it out for ideas on how to start meaningful traditions for your Easter that focus more on Christ than eggs and bunnies. Read more
I love Slugs & Bugs! No, not the creepy crawly kind. I really can’t stand that kind. I’m talking about the kids music. I say kids music because that’s really who it’s intended for, but, not so secretly, I really love it too. Slugs & Bugs is the music brand started by Randall Goodgame and Andrew Peterson in an effort to create fun, quality music the whole family can enjoy. You can read more about their story here.
Here are the top 5 reasons why our family loves Slugs & Bugs music:
1. Slugs & Bugs LIVE
We recently saw them in concert at our church and it really helped enhance my kids love for Slugs & Bugs. It was exciting for Maddie to get to meet Mr. Randall Goodgame and thank him for the fun time. I was excited to get to meet him and thank him for his ministry and heart for kids and God’s word. The concert itself was full of action and interaction and videos. It held Maddie’s attention the entire time and even when it was getting close to bed time, she was still enthralled. She came home wanting to do all the actions for the songs, and we still do, at least the ones I can still remember.
2. It’s silly, fun and smart
The silly songs are intelligent, well-written and so much fun. I mean, everybody loves “The Camel Song”, right? And I can’t lie and say that the “Mexican Rhapsody” has not randomly popped into my head. Pico de gallo anyone? Oh, and my kids like them too. My almost three-year-old, Maddie will randomly burst out into “Tractor, Tractor”, or the “Bears” song. And after the concert she also randomly asks, “Have you looked under there?” (Check out the “Under Where?” song if you want to know why) Read more
Day 30: Enables us to Persevere
God’s timing is impeccable. On the last day of the challenge, the one that covers perseverance, I was the most the tempted to just skip today all together.
It was a rough day for Maddie and I didn’t get to much of anything so it would have been really easy for me to skip out. But as she took a cat nap on my lap this evening I read through the challenge and had a little time to praise God for helping me persevere through the praise challenge and through the day in general. I had to really stop and find ways to praise God this evening, because I didn’t really feel lit. I felt exhausted and spent. So I started where I was. “Lord, thank you that Maddie has lungs that work, even if they are driving me crazy right now. Thank you for the cookies I will get to eat, even though making them feels like another burden at the moment. Thank you for the food we ate that created the dishes in the sink I need to wash. As I said, I started small, but even those small prayers of gratitude helped steer my heart in the right direction and calmed my spirit.
This 30 Day challenge has been just that, but I am so thankful I took the time to go through this book and hope that I will continue to practice praise every day. It was a great reminder that I need to praise God, not just because He deserves it, but because it lifts my eyes to where they need to be and helps me focus. It calms me and gives me the peace I so long for.
As the challenge draws to a close I would like to say thank you for taking this journey with me. I hope that it has been challenging and rewarding to you, and I hope you will continue the practice of taking time everyday to praise God. We can never run out of ways to praise Him!
Feel free to share anything you have learned, liked or disliked from this challenge.
Day 29: God of All Nations
This was a great reminder to pray for our brothers and sisters around the world. It was also a great reminder that God is at work around the world, even when the news looks bleak. While many are suffering and dying at the hand of evil, God’s truth is also going forth and lives are being transformed. I don’t think we hear the good news enough. Praise God that Gao, a prisoner in China who I (and so many others) had been praying for for the last 5 years, was finally released! That is just one praise, but there are so many others. But let us remember that “he who is in us is greater than he who is in the world.” – 1 John 4:4
Day 30: Enables us to Perservere
Day 28: Freedom in Christ
I feel like this is very similar to everything I have already said, but I am so grateful for the freedom we have in Christ. I go back to this often. Life in Christ is really simple. Love God with all you’ve got and everything else will fall into place. But somehow it all becomes complicated again and again and I find myself trying do too many things, to please too many people, putting expectations on myself that God doesn’t place there. Who am I trying to please and why? These are questions I need to ask myself every day. If I am gleaning anything from these last 28 days, it is that there is peace in knowing the God we serve and I want to continue to learn what it means to live in that peace every day.
Day 29: God of All Nations
Day 27: Controller of All
Another difficult praise challenge. It’s easy for me to praise God for being in control theoretically, but difficult for me to yield to His control and praise Him in the midst of circumstances that I don’t like. I am a planner and when things come up to mess up my plans I can say that definitely praise is not the first thing that comes out of my mouth. I can get very frustrated. I think God has been challenging me with this for a long time, but I’ve definitely had many opportunities to practice with Maddie. There are so many things that have happened with her from pregnancy thru labor and beyond that I can’t control at all. Often it’s frustrating but that’s usually because I want things to look a certain way and they don’t. I so want to learn to live in the peace of yielding to God’s control. It’s gonna take alot more practice, but I think He’ll keep giving me opportunities to learn this – one way or another. However I do praise Him that He is in control and we can have peace in knowing that – if we choose to.
Day 28: Freedom in Christ
Day 26: God who Listens
I am so thankful that through Jesus we can approach God’s throne with confidence. What an awesome privilege! Sometimes I picture God as this light that is unapproachable and I am on my knees before Him, but other times I picture Him as a giant grandpa figure whose arms I can climb up in and be the child He calls me. I can share my thoughts and feelings and fill him in on everything going on. And just knowing He’s always available and actually wants to listen astounds me. I am so thankful that we can come to Him with anything and everything.
Day 27: Controller of All