Two weeks ago I started this series looking at how I became a stay-at-home mom and took a closer look at some of the things that make this the hardest job ever.
So the next question I thought about was, “How do I survive day after day?” Honestly, in the beginning this was really really hard. Now, it’s just regular hard. And some days it really is just getting up and putting one foot in front of the other, like any hard thing in life. But I don’t count down the hours as much as I used to. And sometimes I even enjoy myself.
I am a list person who likes to physically do tasks. It makes me feel like I’ve accomplished something. Being a mom is not really like that. Sometimes I can get some tasks done, but more often I feel like I am going in circles doing the same things over and over with nothing really getting done and nothing to show for all my “work” at the end of the day.
I had to go through a major mental shift when I became a stay-at-home mom, and that didn’t happen overnight. It’s still happening, in fact. I had to learn what would work for me and my kids in this new role. I can guarantee you that our everyday family life will look different than yours because I am not you.
But I also know that some of what has helped me is universal, and may be able to help you too. So here is a list of 5 things you can do to help with the transition to motherhood or becoming a stay-at-home mom: Read more
It’s been a little over 3 years since my husband and I decided I would leave the workforce and become a stay-at-home mom. We were pregnant with our first when we made that decision. I cannot say the road has been easy. There are many days I want to quit, but it has been worth it.
I want to challenge and encourage any moms out there who want to be home, who are home and struggle, or even those that work outside the home. Being a mom is an all-encompassing job whether you are home full time or not, so I know that even if you work outside the home there will be something you can relate to.
Over the next few weeks I am going to take a look at three aspects of Becoming a Stay-at-Home Mom:
1. Hardest Job Ever!
2. How I Survive Without Going Crazy
3. How We Can Afford to Live on One Income.
I wish I could say that I have all the answers for you, but I don’t. I’ve only been at this for three years. Lots of moms have tons more experience than I do, but I can share my experience, and hopefully you will find something that you can relate to, especially if you are in the early years of your kids lives as well.
Hardest Job Ever
That pretty much sums it up. I’ve worked many types of jobs: customer service, manual labor, printing, project management, etc. But this is, by far, the toughest job I’ve ever had. Granted, it is also the most rewarding, but toughest nonetheless. Some days I am ready to throw in the towel. While my daughter throws a tantrum and my son bangs continually on the closet door I question if I should do something about all this or just walk back in the other room and put my head under the pillow. Did I mention it’s not even 6:30AM yet? Yeah, it’s gonna be one of those days. Read more
Over the last month I have been exploring three aspects of Becoming a Stay-at-Home Mom:
I started by talking about how it is the hardest job ever. Then I shared some tips for how I survive day-to-day life without going crazy. Today I am going to share how we can afford for me to be home.
How Our Family Can Afford to Live on One Income
We really can’t. Honestly, at the end of the day, we spend more than we are bringing in most months. But somehow it all works out. I give God all the credit for that because in 3 years of me being home we still have our long-term savings intact. I’m not going to give out our exact financials because I don’t think it’s important, but I will say that you can make a one-income family work on a lot less than you think. You can make it work for under 35K.
Granted, you won’t live in the biggest, fanciest house, or take the most expensive vacations, or eat out all the time, but if you are serious about wanting live on one income, there are ways to do it. Read more